kantasammita

Kanta sammita – the infered.

Literary compositions in sanskrit ar either

·         Guru sammita             scriptures with do’s and don’t like the vedas.

·         Sakhi sammita             epics that make ethical lessons palpable and palatable.

·         Kantasammita             poetry and drama her things are not stated but is left to infernce.

Since I work more with poetry and drama, inferences play an important role in intepreting and presenting. One thing that stuck to me about both Ramayana and Mahabharat  is the corollaries that can be drawn

v  The life of a forest dweller is  romanticized.

v  The fact that it can be enjoyed if if one has the mind to attune to nature which vibrates in beauty and in that one can live in love and peace.

v  Ambition and violence are part of heroic ideals, they are not sinful in themelseves but become siful only when they are lead to other sinds.

v  Mans normal instincts demand legitimate satisfication and fulfilment. It is not sinful to satisfy them.

v  Violation of social harmony is a sin.

Interestingly Tapas deos not purify or enrich a character, for example Vishwamitra, his ego and aggression stays intact, it  empowered by his Tapas.

Embracing womanhood

When a woman honors that she is all women collectively move closer to becoming what they are capable of being.

There are many ways and myriad reasons for women to honor and embraces all that they are. And when any individual woman chooses to do so all women collectively move closer to becoming what they are and are truly capable of being. By honoring her experience and be willing to share it with others. She teaches as she learns. When she can trust herself and inner voice she teaches people around her to trust as well. Clasping hands with family members, and friends, co workers and strangers in a shared walk through the journey of life she allows all to see the self respect she possesses and accepts their respect too. This respect could be offered through look work and deed.

When a woman can look back into her past doing so without regret and instead of seeing only lessons brought to her current strength and wisdom she embraces the fullness of experience she helps those around her to build upon the past as she does. And when she chooses to create her desires, she places her power in the present and moves forward with life to the future.

Seeing her divinity a woman learns torecongnize the divinity in all women. She then can see her body as a temple, appreciating its feminine form and function regardless of what age or stage of life she finds herself. She can enjoy all that it brings to her experience and appreciated other women and their experiences as well. Rather than seeing other women as competition she can look around her to see the cycle of life in the beauty of other women, reminding her of her own radiance.

She can celebrate all the aspects that make her a be worth of praise, dancing to express the physical, speaking to express the intellect, sharing emotions and leading the way with her spiritual guidance. Embracing her womanhood reveals the facets that allow her to shine with beauty and strength of a diamond to illuminate her world.

sending yourself sunshine

Sending your self sunshine.

There are parts and moods in us that we don’t know appreciate, we like to call it the dark side of us. It has kind of become a norm to accept the darkness sometimes even gloat over it.

The worked we accept our darkness as one part of the picture the more easily we can also allow and accept our light.

When things go wrong it is easy to get into a bad mood, and that bad mood has a way of spiraling out and affecting our life fro days to come. In the same way when we feel bad about ourselves we tend to act in ways that have repercussions again creating a negative vibe that can negatively influence the next several days. While it is important that we allow ourselves to feel what we feel and to be genuine we do not have to complete surrender to a dark mood or feeling of self doubt. Infact the more we simply allow and accept our darkness as one part of the picture, the more easily we can also allow and accept our light. In this vein we can temper our grey moods with injection of sunshine in the form of sending good wishes to ourselves for the next 24hrs.

If you feel a bad mood coming on or find yourself plagued with negative feelings take a moment to acknowledge that. At the same time, recognize that things can and will change and that you can still have a good day, or good week especially if take the time to visualize that for yourself. This is a great way to support yourself. You are sending yourself love and warmth as well as encouraging yourself to keep going.

I wish I could think of some innovative way of sending love and good wishes ahead to myself as well as everyone I encounter.   

Accepting apologies

We say “its okay” when somebody has wronged us which energetically is allowing for the behavior to happen again.

In life there will always be times when we are affected by actions of another person. When this happens we often receive an apology more often than not we say ,”it’s alright” or “its okay” and by saying this we are allowing accepting and giving permission for the behavior to happen again. When say “thank you” or “I accept your apology,” we are forced to face our feeling rather than ignore them.

There are many of us who feel it is easier to brush off how we really feel than to express our discomfort with something that has happened to us. While this may initially seem like the best thing to do, what it really does is put into an unending patter of behavior. Since we are not honest with another person, we continue the cycle of letting them overstep our emotional limits time and again. By doing this we place ourselves in the position of victim. We can put an end to this karmic chain by first acknowledging to the other person we accept their request for forgiveness, often a simple “thank you” is enough. To truly create a greater sense of harmony in our relationship however we need to gently and with compassion express our concerns about what has transpired. By taking a deep breathe and calling upon the deepest part of our spirit we can usually find the right to say and verbalize them in a way that lets the other person recognize. The consequence of what they have done.

If we can remember that our response to others is important, we can begin to realize that trust and forgiveness go hand in hand. And we react in a way that engenders a great amount of honesty and candor we will establish a more  positive and empowering way of being  and interacting with others.

the blame game

Burdensome Feelings
Blaming Others

Blaming sets up a situation in which it becomes difficult to move forward and puts resolution in the hands of others.

As we begin to truly understand that the world outside of us is a reflection of the world inside of us, we may feel confused about who is to blame for the problems in our lives. If we had a difficult childhood, we may wonder how we can take responsibility for that, and in our current relationships, the same question arises. We all know that blaming others is the opposite of taking responsibility, but we may not understand how to take responsibility for things that we don’t truly feel responsible for. We may blame our parents for our low self-esteem, and we may blame our current partner for exacerbating it with their unconscious behavior. Objectively, this seems to make sense. After all, it is not our fault if our parents were irresponsible or unkind, and we are not to blame for our partner’s bad behavior.

Perhaps the problem lies with the activity of blaming. Whether we blame others or blame ourselves, there is something aggressive and unkind about it. It sets up a situation in which it becomes difficult to move forward under the burdensome feelings of shame and guilt that arise. It also puts the resolution of our pain in the hands of someone other than us. Ultimately, we cannot insist that someone else take responsibility for their actions; only they can make that choice when they are ready. In the meantime, if we want to move forward with our lives instead of waiting around for something that may or may not happen, we begin to see the wisdom of taking the situation into our own hands.

We do this by forgiving our parents, even if they have not asked for our forgiveness, so that we can be free. We end the abusive relationship with our partner, who may never admit to any wrongdoing, because we are willing to take responsibility for how we are treated. In short, we love ourselves as we want to be loved and create the life we know we deserve. We leave the resolution of the wrongs committed against us in the hands of the universe, releasing ourselves to live a life free of blame.

the great Rakhi saga

Yesterday was Raksha bandhan,


It reminded me of my senior Dr.Jegadeeshan, he must be in some corner of Malaysia every rakhi brings back memories of him. He would be desolate on the day to quote him”I hate this festival-la, all girls turn up uh to tie rakhi, there are so many that I can’t lift my hand-la they don’t see-yah that it massacres my reputation as Casanova-la.”

Another classmate was thoroughly upset when he heard us saying that he was very brotherly.

The greatest bhaiyyaland festival, marketed by bollywood after Karwah chauth. This event has well supported by Archie’s, and any other commercial venture piggy riding on the great Indian culture, of bhaiyyaland.

My granddad told me no self respecting south Indian girl should tie a rakhi, considering that the south is a matriarchal and sometimes matrilineal society. Women are as educated as the men.

Another friend had another way of putting it, all the KMC and MIT crowd out there this was from Anupa Chaco she reckoned that the festival of Rakhi was there because our culture could not accept the platonic relationship between a man and woman. It had to be either the ever glorified holy brother-sister or the sexual kind.

Declaring XYZ is my Rakhi brother seem to make it all respectable.

Yet I can’t imagine tying a Rakhi to Manoj, he is my friend, probably with Anupa being far away my best one, trying to label this bonding into the bracket of bhaiyya-behen would be the ultimate insult of our friendship. Why is it so difficult to accept that someone is a friend, he or she is such a good friend, the person ceases to exist in physical form the person being male or female is irrelevant.

Why is it necessary to label bonding? Is it a way of re-enforcing boundaries that society binds us with?(after all the respectable society does not know of incest)

why can’t we just accept a good friend and thank god for the beautiful gift?

the wives

Sunday times carried an interesting article about the first wives club. Made up of celebrity wives who were given the royal ditch when her husband moved on younger pastures.


The sense of guilt, wonderment of what went wrong, explaining to the kids, coping up with the kids are all difficult. It even more hurting to face the sympathy or the pity of the family and peer group. A single non-compliance would be pointed out ha! She has XYZ fault because of which ABC suffered and the man moved on.

These are the obvious separated ones. The Indian community has a new one, where husbands are hooked on a mistress who is far more enticing. In this case the first wife does not even get emotional support, forget the sympathy part of it. I am talking of the victim of the newly catching epidemic called spirituality.

This mistress comes with a golden halo and social adulation.

The wife is supposed to understand, support the husband in this cause. Listen to the gibes as to how horrid she must be if her husband had to turn to spiritual support. From other spiritual enthusiastic the refrain is how blessed the wife must be.

Right from Yashodhara to tukaram’s wife to these women have borne the brunt of single parenting, financial challenges, in addition to a guilt trip what could I have done differently that my marriage would be saved. Life becomes one courtroom ordeal where one has to constantly defend oneself, family, friends, children other male predators.

Its always the mother who pays the price.