Narcissism

We are all great lovers of beauty we love seeing it everywhere appreciating it in others. When it comes to ourselves we somehow fail to do it, even if somebody does he/she is accused of narcissism.

We look at ourselves in the mirror with certain expectations and preconceived notions; we can only see the blemishes and short comings. Sometimes we our beauty in a shallow way noticing how well we conform to patterns, social norms but failing to se and accept the beauty within.

If we accept the beauty of who we are then we can free up so much of energy. we depend on appreciation and feed back is less, measuring to a social ideal it becomes less relevant.

The nrtya yoga helps us release this baggage within ourselves and summoning for the spirit that dwells within us. It is the heady combination of the divine spirit and the human body that convey beauty more accurate than anything else.

Surrounding ourselves with photographs of family that resemble us, with events captured in a unguarded picture, are always to put us in touch with ourselves. The best though is to look at ourselves in the mirror each morning, look into our eyes and see the beauty within, to hell with narcissism. 

changing the world

There are times, when we feel acute need to change others.


To get them to think like us, maybe this is the time that we need to look into a mirror. We may not find a wonderland like Alice did, but there would be a message for us.

When I think of snow white I think the beautiful stepmother and her evil mirror is something like our perception of humanity as a whole, i.e. dualistic. With a broad brush we paint pictures of people some like us, who share our opinions and attitudes and others who don’t. We are so caught up with the rightness of our thoughts and values that we are teased and sometimes even frustrated by the different.

Why is that we are unable to realize that we are all individuals.

Maybe because over the time we have learnt to flourish in the richness of lives we have built may come to believe that we are qualified to speak on behalf of the greater source.

Maybe if we pause a while we’ll figure that the sum of what we do not know exceeds the sum of what we know. Individual goals and potentials are different; we do a disservice when we try to make it all uniform.

Maybe we should realize our strength by giving up controlling, and embracing people for what they are. Appreciating their uniqueness,

Perhaps that’s what it’s all about at the end of the day; we respect the right of people to be them.

Maybe we can gaze inwards on to that one person who we can change i.e. ourselves.

the body in our mind

The body in our minds,


We have such a image of ourselves in our minds that many of us are not able to relate to our pictures.

When I see a picture of myself particularly taken when I am unaware I feel that it is the image of an impostor, she does not match the image I have of myself in my mind.

To me my picture ought to look like a caricature of an inflated colon. So where has woman emerged from, she looks fairly presentable and people are reacting and responding to her.

More than wondering where this woman emerged from I need to be wondering where did the woman in my mind emerge from?

In her book Body Love Ruth Freedman observes most woman nurture negative images of themselves which is very distant from the reality. While in men it is the visaversa.

The conclusion of her research was

“there is hardly any connection between a woman’s physical attractiveness(as rated by others)and her satisfaction with her body image..feelings of self Worth..there is a strong relationship however between body image and self esteem”