Monday, August 30, 2010

Accepting apologies

We say “its okay” when somebody has wronged us which energetically is allowing for the behavior to happen again.
In life there will always be times when we are affected by actions of another person. When this happens we often receive an apology more often than not we say ,”it’s alright” or “its okay” and by saying this we are allowing accepting and giving permission for the behavior to happen again. When say “thank you” or “I accept your apology,” we are forced to face our feeling rather than ignore them.
There are many of us who feel it is easier to brush off how we really feel than to express our discomfort with something that has happened to us. While this may initially seem like the best thing to do, what it really does is put into an unending patter of behavior. Since we are not honest with another person, we continue the cycle of letting them overstep our emotional limits time and again. By doing this we place ourselves in the position of victim. We can put an end to this karmic chain by first acknowledging to the other person we accept their request for forgiveness, often a simple “thank you” is enough. To truly create a greater sense of harmony in our relationship however we need to gently and with compassion express our concerns about what has transpired. By taking a deep breathe and calling upon the deepest part of our spirit we can usually find the right to say and verbalize them in a way that lets the other person recognize. The consequence of what they have done.
If we can remember that our response to others is important, we can begin to realize that trust and forgiveness go hand in hand. And we react in a way that engenders a great amount of honesty and candor we will establish a more  positive and empowering way of being  and interacting with others.

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