Sunday times carried an interesting article about the first wives club. Made up of celebrity wives who were given the royal ditch when her husband moved on younger pastures.
The sense of guilt, wonderment of what went wrong, explaining to the kids, coping up with the kids are all difficult. It even more hurting to face the sympathy or the pity of the family and peer group. A single non-compliance would be pointed out ha! She has XYZ fault because of which ABC suffered and the man moved on.
These are the obvious separated ones. The Indian community has a new one, where husbands are hooked on a mistress who is far more enticing. In this case the first wife does not even get emotional support, forget the sympathy part of it. I am talking of the victim of the newly catching epidemic called spirituality.
This mistress comes with a golden halo and social adulation.
The wife is supposed to understand, support the husband in this cause. Listen to the gibes as to how horrid she must be if her husband had to turn to spiritual support. From other spiritual enthusiastic the refrain is how blessed the wife must be.
Right from Yashodhara to tukaram’s wife to these women have borne the brunt of single parenting, financial challenges, in addition to a guilt trip what could I have done differently that my marriage would be saved. Life becomes one courtroom ordeal where one has to constantly defend oneself, family, friends, children other male predators.
Its always the mother who pays the price.
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